Each year, I conduct an Annual Review on my life and personal goals and then set new goals for the next 365 days. (For more info, I previously wrote about the entire process here.) It sounds funny, but the Annual Review is actually one of the most rewarding and satisfying activities that I conduct in my life. What is even funnier is that I
often always document all the goals in January and then I never even look at them until the following December. It’s as if something within me just knows what to do after I write them down.
One of my weaknesses is that I often don’t look at the opposite of something. I know I need to do more of ‘this’ but what ‘that’ should I be limiting in return? It is with this question that I decided for 2013 I would not only focus on what goals I want to set, but the goals that I don’t want to set.
In 2013, I’m not planning on:
1. Accomplishing anything big
In 2012, I purchased a condo, adopted a dog and switched jobs. Even though the new job was not part of the original planned goals, the mere fact that all three of those things occurred throughout only 12 months is overwhelming.
In 2013, I’m planning the exact opposite. I would like to make small incremental changes to the really big life changing events that occurred last year. And who knows, maybe I’ll even surprise myself by what I consider ‘small’
2. Following a ‘diet’
I’ve always been a petite person, but in years past, I’ve had room to lose a few pounds and definitely had some room to eat healthier meals. I’ve also never been one to follow a diet per se. Last year, I stumbled upon paleo as I tackled my crossfit workouts. I spent an entire month only eating paleo foods and never deviating from that ‘way of eating.’ It was important because it helped me start realizing how different foods affect me including my moods, my digestive system and my energy towards living, sleeping and staying fit.
This year, I don’t plan on eating strict paleo 30-days in a row. I want to eat a lot of the foods that work for me (meat, veggies, fruit, etc.), but also sometimes test for the ones that don’t (eggs, artichoke dip, donuts –> so far). And by golly if I want to crush a Five Guys double bacon cheeseburger and fries after three workouts in one day, I will!
3. Being more like “_______”
It’s a common human characteristic to compare ourselves to others. I think that often times we look to people as role models, but then end up comparing every single thing we do to their performance. ”I want to lift weights like her.” ”I want to dress like that model.” “I want to write like his novel.”
I won’t be the first to tell you that we are each unique with our own set of strengths and weaknesses. My writing will never feel the same as his. My performance in the gym will never be the same as hers. Nor, will it be the same as tomorrow. Because the one thing I can do is be more of myself — an improved and better version each day — and that is the one thing that I am focusing on in the new year.
*What resolutions are you not making in 2013?